Category: Musings

Intuitive Empathy Transfer

We are all connected to one other through intuitive empathy. Last week we talked about how this type of empathy is different from emotional empathy, which is the willingness to imagine another person’s lived experience, whether we have similarities or not. Intuitive and emotional empathy can co-exist and often do, but intuitive empathy is immediate and… Read more »

No #empathslander Allowed

It’s a relatively new phenomenon for people to casually refer to themselves as ’empaths.’ But I’m not sure everyone is on the same page as to what an empath is exactly. So I, like many people, share in a good dose of skepticism behind the rising wave of #empathslander. Let’s discuss what empathy is and isn’t…. Read more »

Get Your Leg Out of The Bear Trap

Junior Gorman the Younger and I are having a contest this summer: whoever clocks the week with the least amount of time on social media before Labor Day wins. We haven’t decided on a prize yet, but I suspect spending the summer with strong guardrails around the hellscape that the digital social world has become… Read more »

No-Limits Pride

My partner and I have the absolute honor of being part of a big rainbow family. We are at the helm of our chapter (along with his amazing co-parent) insomuch as we are the elder members of the bunch, but this means very little when you consider they are all way smarter than us. We… Read more »

The Day After Memorial Day

I never got to meet Harry Gordon, my grandmother’s favorite sibling, who was killed in Berdorf Luxembourg at the Battle of the Bulge on December 26th, 1944. What I hold in my heart is a ghost loss. One that isn’t mine directly but is mine to carry. I hold the loss of the partner he… Read more »

Junior Gorman The Elder Is Graduating

There we are, 23 years ago. Me holding this little squish. This week they graduate from Columbia University. I could write an entire book about how parenting the Junior Gormans has transformed me into the best version of myself, and maybe someday I will, but for now, let’s just leave it with this: the gratitude… Read more »

Don’t Call Your Intuition Names

Friends, you’ve got to stop calling your intuition names. If you always introduced me to people as “my weird friend Susan”, or constantly referred to me as “bizarre”, or “freaky”, I would probably avoid you too. But that’s exactly how we talk with each other about our intuitive experiences. Labeling them this way discredits them… Read more »

Take That, Fear

Person in bright yellow raincoat with a large bunch of yellow balloons riding a scooter on a wet street in front of a park.

Last week we talked about how the Screamies aren’t good for your intuition. Today we’re going to talk about supporting your intuition, especially during times when you are stressed. Let’s say you have gotten really good at identifying when you are afraid. You’ve begun to understand that when we’re in fear, our intuition is completely non-functional, meaning… Read more »

The Screamies Aren’t Good For Your Intuition

I know how scary it all feels right now We’re at Level Turbulent, right? Or are we? Like, how bad is it going to get? Wait, don’t tell me. I don’t want to know. Occasionally these days, folks have the courage to say some version of this to me, but I’m assuming most of y’all just… Read more »

Two Springs

It’s Definitely Spring (Although damn if it’s not taking its time about it! ) It’s still pretty chilly here in Southern Maine. We were traveling in Europe at the beginning of the month, and while I’m gathering my thoughts about it, I should point out that it’s much easier to write/post on le weekend in… Read more »